“I want to discuss more” is nice to say, but as you’ve observed it doesn’t appear that more discussion is actually having an effect at this point.
I’m not sure how, but you may want to coordinate more with the PSF about the Packaging Project Manager role. Here was the original post Python Software Foundation News: The PSF is hiring a Python Packaging Project Manager! If their job description or duties didn’t match the help packaging maintainers needed, you should probably send that feedback to the PSF so they can amend their job description and tasking/reporting processes in the future.
That said, given how packaging discussions seem to go in general, you may need to accept that no one will be able to fill the roll that everyone else thinks they want the way they all think they want it. At some point, someone will need to make concrete decisions rather than just continue discussion forever.